The Christmas period can be stressful regardless of whether you’re single, in a relationship or actively online dating. Don’t let countless office Christmas parties, deciding on whose in-laws to visit and who overdrew whose credit card spoil your life.
Rescu. interviewed Dr Gian Gonzaga, relationship expert and director ef research and development at eHarmony.com.au for essential love life tips and tricks for singles and couples.
RESCU: What is the best way to avoid the holiday blues when you’re single?
Dr Gian Gonzaga: Put yourself first. Take the opportunity to treat yourself. You don’t have to worry about buying a gift for a partner so why not get yourself something you’ve been longing for all year?
Also, with Christmas parties and social functions in abundance, it’s a great chance to get out, expand your social circle and meet new people. Make the most of opportunities that help you meet new people, be positive and most of all, have fun!
RESCU: Is it appropriate to flirt with work colleagues during Christmas parties?
Dr Gian Gonzaga: Work on your professional relationships – with so many work related functions and activities, it’s a great time to focus on your career. Take the opportunity to build your personal brand at company events in the lead up to Christmas and take advantage of networking opportunities. Just keep in mind that all the rules of the office apply, and keep all the socialising professional.
RESCU: What are the biggest threats/complications for a relationship that can arise during the silly season?
Dr Gian Gonzaga: The busy Christmas period can present many hurdles for those in a relationship. The ‘silly season’ can be all about work, parties, family and friends, leaving little time for your relationship. While life is busy this time of year, it’s important not to let your relationship be pushed to the bottom of the list. Make an effort to free up some time for each other. Try and set aside a day, or a dinner, dedicated to the two of you, just to catch up. Your relationship will be all the better for it and you’ll be making a positive start to the New Year.
RESCU: How do you deal with Christmas lunches with his family if you don’t particularly like them?
Dr Gian Gonzaga: Dilemmas such as what side of the family to spend Christmas with, or which group of friends to see on the weekend, can be tricky situations for couples to deal with. When making these decisions it’s important to make them as a team and ensure that both parties have their say. Ensure you keep the lines of communication open and try and be fair to each other, and the relationship.
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