As incredible as her Masters in Spiritual Psychology, multiple high-profile speaking gigs, and two best-selling personal growth books are, it’s Christine Hassler’s personal life experience that has us really impressed.
This self-help guru has gone through the sort of trials that could well leave a ready to give up on their dreams for good: at the age of 26 she left a very successful career as a Hollywood agent to pursue her passion, she was dumped just six month before her wedding, she’s dealt huge financial debt, healed an ‘undiagnosable’ auto-immune disorder, overcome depression after being medicated for 20 years, and went through a divorce at age 33.
Despite all this, Christine is living a life many people would envy – full of love, success and happiness. Even more importantly, she is living the life she’s always wanted to. And now she’s headed to Sydney to teach Aussies how they, too, can create the life they want.
We interviewed Christine ahead of her Sydney workshop to find out more about her tools for life transformation.
RESCU: New years resolutions are often set but rarely reviewed and actually achieved. What advice do you give clients on successful goal setting and how to go about achieving these goals?
Christine Hassler: The biggest roadblock to achieving goals is not removing what is in the way. When working with clients, it is easy for them to say what they want but more challenging to specifically identify what is preventing it from happening. I support them in identifying what keeping them from getting from where they are now to where they want to be.
These blocks can come in various forms: Logistical (time, money, needing further education, etc.), Belief systems (not thinking they are good enough, unworthy, feeling insecure, etc)., Fears (concerns about the unknown, getting out of their comfort zone, worst case scenario type of thinking, etc), Other people (toxic relationships, concern about what others think, etc). Once we get really clear on what the blocks are, then we talk about specific action steps to overcoming them. This is KEY because before we can achieve our goals, we have to remove what is preventing them from actually manifesting.
I also walk clients through this New Years Ritual that supports completing the past year and visioning the present, that is outlined here. Many multi-tasking women see work life balance as the holy grail of success.
RESCU: Do you have any expert advice around getting and keeping a sense of balance in our lives?
Christine Hassler: There is no such thing as balance. Expecting to be equally balanced in all aspects of our life is impossible and puts tons of pressure on women to “do it all.” I suggest focusing on being PRESENT more than balancing time.
When we are fully present and engaged in whatever we are doing, then we get much more out of each moment and the people we are with feel our presence even more.
Most women who are multi-tasking feel so stressed out because their mind is always somewhere else (their to-do list, the future, etc.). If they focus on being present, they will naturally feel more balanced.
RESCU: Our readers talk about feeling guilty around taking time for themselves if it means being away from their families and career obligations. What are some tools and strategies around setting boundaries and taking time for yourself without feeling guilty?
Christine Hassler: Knowing that when we make self-HONORING (not selfish) choices to take care of ourselves, we show up as a much better version of ourselves at work and home.
I advise women schedule time for themselves regularly on their calendar as a routine. The more it becomes an appointment (just like you’d have with a doctor, the more the feelings of guilt go away).
This is a great question and really comes down to not caring what others think of you, I actually answered this in a blog around people pleasing.
RESCU: What can we do if we feel like the ‘zing’ has gone out of our lives? Are there things other than shopping or a big glass of wine that can help give us a healthy and long term buzz about ourselves and our lives?
Christine Hassler: Quick fixes like shopping and wine are not the answer at all. The #1 thing that gives us “zing” is gratitude and acceptance.
No matter what, there is always something to be grateful for. Acceptance is the first law of spiritual growth – we don’t have to “like” what is happening or not happening in our lives, but when we accept it (meaning we stop wishing it was different, judging it or fighting it), we do not have to suffer so much.
We can’t control what happens in life but we 100% have a choice after how we respond to it. Knowing our happiness / zing depends on how we are looking at ourselves and everything in our life is what gives us the long-term buzz.
And for an extra buzz, add being of service. Showing up for others, volunteering our time, getting out of our own life/issues and helping someone else create a lasting feeling of fulfillment.
Christine is coming to Sydney for a workshop where she will teach you how to really answer the question ‘Who am I?’, how to find your passion and make it your reality, how to be spiritual but still get stuff done (and make money), and so, so much more.
Sound good? Christine has also offered Rescu. readers a special discount on tickets. Get your discount code to Christine Hassler’s Sydney Workshop here.
