Feeling adventurous? Make 2013 your year to try new things in the bedroom. Rescu. gives you a list of hot resolutions…
Make 2013 your hottest year ever – and we truly mean it. Not all of these suggestions will suit you, but pick at least a few and try to make them happen. Nothing’s stopping you – just grab a willing partner and go…
Fulfil a fantasy. Let 2013 be the year you make your dreams come true. In a taxi? On the beach? With a stranger? Dressed as Wonder Woman? An elaborate fantasy involving a robbery and a hot police officer?
Make it your mission to fulfil at least one fantasy – provided that any long-term partners seriously want to come along for the ride. In a way single girls have the jump on this: they can find partners for the express sake of fulfilling a dream. If you’re coupled up, introduce it, discuss, make it hot.
A note: ‘get intimate with a woman’ is a great fantasy, but many gay women may not appreciate being used as an ‘experiment’ by otherwise straight women, so tread very carefully and consider everybody’s feelings.
Invest in a new toy. You haven’t got a vibrator yet? It’s nearly 2013! Time to get out the credit card and guarantee that you’ll never need to fake again. (That’s another resolution – STOP FAKING. It hurts everybody involved.)
Vibrator shopping seems like it’s best to do with a partner, but often an in-the-know friend is just as useful and can answer the hard questions. Always look for warranties, battery life, how well it can be cleaned, the quality of the material and the reputation of the stockist.
If you’re more advanced, make it your year to go beyond the normal. Invest in something remotely controlled, a pair of handcuffs, something small and exquisite – just to amp things up a bit. I always advise you to buy quality – knock-offs can be dangerous.
Visit a naughty club or event. Want to get out in public, but not sure you want to risk the possibility of fines? Naughty events at clubs and parties are just the ticket to get the best of both worlds.
Sydney’s Hellfire club is the best example, but there are several club nights and events across the country that favour the exhibitionist. Remember to dress appropriately – now is the time to invest in latex, your best lingerie, a trench coat – and go for fantasy to get yourself in the door. (The door people are notoriously discerning and will turn away anybody they deem improperly attired.)
Not your scene? Take a class. Look into classes in an obscure segment of intimate practise – tantric, the Karma Sutra, shibari, elaborate bondage – and take a Saturday to explore.
Try tantric. It feels as if nobody has time for slow intimacy these days. However, if you’d like a little more impact and closeness, tantric might be for you. The famously sensual practise means lots of slowness, many hours of investment and an enormous pay-off.
If you’re interested, look for books – Amazon has a good section, and major book retailers should stock good ones – or look for tutorials, online or in your local city. Go with a partner or on your own, but it’s a good year to slow down.
Kit out your bedroom. I’m not talking interior decoration. I mean getting it prepped as an intimate space. Make 2013 your year to fit your bedroom to your life.
Raising the mattress so that a partner can comfortably enter you standing up? Putting on elaborate headboards to help with restraints? Make it happen.
It’s also a good time to organise your toys and make sure you have everything stored properly and in good nick. Throw out any old faithful that’s showing signs of wear, stock up on protection, and keep everything clean.
Get to know your body. If you really don’t know where your own G-spot is, you are missing out and 2013 is the year to make it happen. Explore your own body and likes – nobody can do this except you, and probably a toy to help.
Familiarise yourself with the lay-out of your intimate areas, and takes notes on exactly what positions turn you on – some women need to have tension against the side of their vaginal walls to experience pleasure, others are insanely sensitive around the entrance. It’s all personal.
But the G-spot matters – and if you don’t think it does, get a hold of a G-spot vibrator like the Rock Chick and see what happens…
Lady Friday xxx
Taking the pillow talk out of the bedroom, every Friday…
