It’s nearly Christmas time – and then it’ll be 2020! Have you had a happy, sexy 2019?
However, that means parties, and late nights, and family squabbles, and lots of food. The end of the year is often one of the lowest ebbs for sexual activity, as women get busier and more stressed.
Here are RESCU’s tips for keeping the festive season just as sexy as the rest of the year.
Chill out.
Sex isn’t going to happen unless you take a deep breath and let the stress of the season evaporate.
Don’t think of the bedroom as a chore. Make it a place of refuge from the madness of tinsel, carols and Hannukah nights.
If anything, slow things down – include touching, a lot of foreplay, or bathe together.
That way your body can recharge and enjoy the experience, rather than being tense and frazzled.
Make time for the bedroom.
The toughest element of any modern woman’s life is often time.
The holidays is no exception, here – and even if you aren’t working, the lazy days of summer can be rapidly filled with social engagements and other stresses.
The key here is to actively make time for sex – not just ‘letting it happen’.
This might seem unromantic, and it doesn’t require a Blackberry appointment, but it still has to be a conscious decision. Otherwise you might let things get on top of you (and not in the good way).
The time commitment will be rewarded in spades.
And if you’re just too tired, despite your best efforts, talk to your partner, be honest, and forgive yourself – we all over-exert sometimes.
Indulge in a little pampering.
Even if it’s just a small thing like a bath or a new perfume, Christmas can be a good time to reawaken a sensual side of yourself.
For one thing, lots of lovely things are on sale; and for another, you’re encouraged to be at your prettiest.
However, feeling sexy might be an effort after a long year – so make sure you do whatever you need to reinvigorate your hormones and your libido.
A new sex toy for Christmas might be just the ticket.
Remember affection.
If you’re in a relationship, now – in the glow of the holiday lights – might be a good time to reinstate the common-or-garden affections that often get lost in day-to-day things.
Kissing, bum-grabbing, stroking hair – it’s been shown that physical affection between couples is one of the most important underpinnings of a healthy sexual relationship.
It shows that you’re aware of, and love, each other’s bodies, and awakens you to their possibilities.
So next time your partner wanders past, pull them in for a full-body squeeze, drink in their pheromones, and enjoy the high.
Give a little.
And we don’t mean those awful bell-encrusted teddies from Victoria’s Secret.
If anything, the holiday season is a time for generosity – so make it your resolution to give as good as you get in the bedroom.
Got any outstanding sexual favours? Cash them in.
And give for the pleasure of giving, not just receiving- oral sex, massages and other generous activities don’t have to be reciprocal to be fun for both parties.
It may not be the right time for a novel new move – stress can mean that sticking temporarily to tradition in the bedroom is often the go-to – but enjoy one another.
Have a happy, healthy Christmas and a sensually charged New Year!
Lady Friday xx
Taking the pillow talk out of the bedroom, every Friday…
