Her basic answer? “Yeah, it works. We find a way.”
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Missionary is often a no-no for men who are considerably heavier or larger than their partners, since they feel like they’re ‘squashing’ them. Obviously this isn’t the case, but you have to be prepared to explore so nobody ends up pancaked.
The additional problem here? Very large men can often have correspondingly large equipment, unless they’re on steroids or are remarkably unlucky. If you yourself happen to be tighter than normal, this may prove to be painful, so do your homework. Also, use lube.
The top choice? Woman on top, of course. This way you can control your position, not feel crushed, and utilise just as much- or as little- of their equipment as you choose. Lean forward or sit bolt upright.
Spooning – on your side, with the male partner behind – is an easy way to correct height differences. Having sex eye-to-eye isn’t really possible if you’re seriously mismatched, so this is a good way to feel intimate and touch each other as much as possible without sacrificing comfort.
Non-traditional missionary can work with a little effort. Put your knees up nearly against your chest while lying on your back. This gives your partner something to lean on rather than crushing your ribs. Of course, if he’s still too heavy, scratch it.
Sex against a wall is far easier when one of you is much lighter than the other. Let him lift you against a wall, wrap your arms around his hips, and you’re off. He can support you with his arms around your thighs or behind.
From behind can be a little more uncomfortable if your partner is of substantial weight and girth. Experiment with different kinds – lying down, supporting your hips on pillows, on all fours – if one doesn’t feel entirely comfortable.
One good doggy-style option: lie face down on the bed with your legs off the edge, and let him kneel on the floor behind you. It might feel a little weird, but the extra support may help. (This position is also good for spanking, if that’s your thing.)
A more seriously dedicated move, which is awkward to set up but works very well: make him sit with his legs crossed, then mount him and wrap your legs around his waist, and move up and down. This may actually get you face-to-face if you’re very short.
And then, of course, there’s always heels.
Lady Friday xx
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