By Robyn Partridge
Author
I want to inspire you to have the relationship you have always wanted and deserve but please be prepared for hard work but making it well worth the effort! Some people find the task daunting but I will show you how to uncover the secrets to creating a successful and loving relationship.
The following three items will be essential for you to cover when working on meeting your dream man.
1. Making the List which covers your personal wants and needs for a relationship
When making The List of your wants and needs in a relationship you have to think not only of all the qualities you would like your partner to have but maybe the less favourable aspects and personality traits you may have had to experience previously.
Sometimes we just keep repeating the same mistakes, dating the same sort of men until we get our wake up call. Something so simple that we can miss and may not ‘wake up’ until an event or comment is made that really does ‘wake us up’ and we become clear about what we need to do for our future relationships.
2. Growing Yourself
Growing Yourself concerns many aspects of your life and your potential partners. “We have to be the best person we can be each day”. Growing yourself includes emotional, kindness, improving the way you look and feel about yourself.
“To be loved you have to be loveable.” Think about it. How true is this? Our destiny in our relationships is up to us and it starts with the way we are, the way we treat ourselves and what we want from each other.
We need to know how to have an open discussion without it turning into an argument, finding Financial Health, Improving your Mind. Growing yourself is about discipline, the way you conduct and show yourself to the world.
Your smile is the perfect accessory! “If you truly want a long term loving relationship you must love the other person’s mind.” Remember, “the body grows old but the mind will mature when two souls are connected”.
3. Compromise and Communication within a relationship
One of the more important areas of a relationship is Compromise and Communication.
Let us not forget Respect! Easy words to say but sometimes not easy to carry through. How set are you in your ways? We must all remember that a relationship is about two people not one. One of the blunders that many people make in a relationship is to be closed off to suggestion.
You must remember to participate in your partner’s life, hobbies, work etc with the possibility of actually enjoying the participation. Life is too short to live in a box. We mustn’t wait for the other person to be the first one to make compromises. Be the first and you’ll be amazed at how your actions can ignite changes in your relationship.
Remember that your partner is not just here to make you happy. You have to create your own happiness within yourself. You might just surprise yourself!
The best way to communicate is the old fashioned way – talking! Talking openly and honestly on a daily basis is essential to weed out any problems that may arise in the relationship.
We have to learn how to deal with these problems calmly and intelligently, always listening to your partner’s comments and not just wanting your point of view heard. Date Night is an essential ingredient in any relationship whether new or old.
Remember if you have children that they will grow and leave so you and your partner must nurture and grow your relationship. You need to talk about your wants, needs, goals, holidays. This time should be a happy positive time for planning and dreaming, rekindling your love. It will bring you closer together and give you more of an understanding of where each person wants to head of if they have any concerns.
At the end of the day, it is up to you to keep the love alive. It’s not such a daunting task after all, once you are armed with your love essentials!
Robyn Partridge’s book Meeting Your Dream Man and Keeping Him is available for purchase
